LEARNING HOW TO ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF AS A WOMAN

Self-advocacy is an important skill for everyone, regardless of gender, but it holds particular significance for women due to historical and societal factors. In our careers, we often encounter a gender pay gap and limited access to leadership roles. Learning to advocate for ourselves is important for negotiating fair compensation, seeking promotions, and overcoming barriers to career advancement. It can also help us break free from gender stereotypes, navigate legal channels to protect our rights, and build our confidence and resilience in facing systemic inequalities. By embracing self-advocacy, we can contribute to the ongoing pursuit of gender equality, fostering a more inclusive and just society.

Advocating for ourselves as women can present a complex set of challenges deeply rooted in historical gender biases and societal expectations. Gender bias and stereotyping can undermine our credibility in asserting our needs, as there is often a double standard where assertive behavior may be perceived differently based on gender. Often, societal expectations, fear of judgment, or repercussions hold us back from speaking up. A lack of representation in influential roles and cultural and institutional barriers can also further block the path to effective self-advocacy.

Overcoming internalized stereotypes and building confidence are ongoing internal struggles that women regularly face. But despite these challenges, we can recognize and address these hurdles in a collective effort to break down systemic barriers and create an environment where we can confidently advocate for ourselves. It just takes a little practice.

Don’t be afraid to put yourself in the arena. You don’t have to wait until the conditions are perfect, or until you’re older, or have a certain level of experience to go after your goals. Pursue your goals proactively and consistently, starting early in your career. It’s also important to note that meeting all of a job’s listed experience, requirements, and skills may indicate overqualification. Don’t sell yourself short.

Collaborating with role models presents a valuable opportunity for professional development and knowledge enrichment within your field. This can also provide a platform for expanding your professional network and acquiring additional mentors. Surround yourself with others who share a belief in your capabilities and are willing to advocate for your success.

Those with experience can offer valuable advice and constructive feedback. However, it’s important to recognize that their perspectives and decisions may not always align with what is right for you. Establishing connections with those who share a similar outlook can contribute significantly to aligning your career path with your goals.

Assess and identify your unique skills, focusing on those you perceive as highly valuable. Engage in opportunities that leverage those strengths. This allows you to maximize your contributions and showcase your expertise in a manner aligned with your skill set.

Establishing boundaries is important in shaping how others perceive and treat you professionally. Speak up and express your concerns if you find yourself uncomfortable with the way you’re being treated. Being clear and direct when articulating your needs will reinforce your professional expectations.

Take up space. Understand that it’s impossible to appease everyone, and your worth is independent of external judgments. Remember that critical opinions, which can often be the loudest, don’t reflect your capabilities.

As you model self-advocacy, you inspire those around you to embrace a similar mindset. This empowerment creates a positive ripple effect, building a safe and inclusive environment where others feel heard and their contributions valued.

By actively engaging in self-advocacy, you gain skills to establish clear boundaries and make choices that align with your core values. It becomes a tool that empowers you to navigate life authentically and purposefully with your individual beliefs and aspirations.

Self-advocacy enables you to navigate life’s complexities with a heightened sense of self-awareness, understanding not only what matters to you but also the underlying reasons behind your choices. More self-awareness also equips you with the skills to navigate relationships with others with greater empathy and discernment.

Through the practice of self-advocacy, you naturally evolve into a more attentive listener, employing open-ended questions to foster dialogue and gaining the ability to appreciate diverse perspectives. This enhances personal communication skills and contributes to the creation of a more inclusive and collaborative environment.

Increasing your self-advocacy skills also increases your ability to solve problems effectively and develop a strategic approach to addressing challenges. This can instill the understanding that presenting solutions in a compelling manner is essential for gaining support from others.

Self-awareness enables you to make more informed decisions that align with your values and goals. But how do you become more self-aware? Where do you start? We’ve provided a few articles with research-backed tips on increasing self-awareness to help you get started.

• Positive Psychology: Self-awareness matters – How you can be more self-aware
• Psych Central: How to be more self-aware and why it’s important

Once you’ve identified your core values, you can learn to navigate your responses to the world with a clear understanding of what matters to you most and why. Both resources below contain lists of values with instructions on how to narrow down your values to 2-4 core values.

• Better Up: Identify your values
• Brene Brown: Dare to Lead list of values

If you’re unsure of what your strengths are, ask your family, friends, mentors, and/or colleagues to identify 5-10 of your strengths. The resource below provides a list of questions to ask yourself while you reflect on their responses to help you identify your top strengths.

• Better Up: Harnessing Your Strengths

What does it mean to have a growth mindset, and why is it important for self-advocacy? A growth mindset fosters resilience and a belief in your capacity for growth, making you more likely to view challenges as opportunities for learning and development, enabling you to assert your needs confidently. The Psychology Today article we’ve linked provides 15 ways to develop a growth mindset.

• Psychology Today: 15 Ways To Build Growth Mindset

Embracing self-advocacy empowers us to break free from limiting stereotypes, assert our needs confidently, and pave the way for gender equality. By leveraging resources and strategies to enhance our self-awareness, embrace a growth mindset, and assert boundaries, we can cultivate the skills and confidence needed to navigate professional environments effectively.

Self-advocacy not only benefits us individually but also fosters a culture of inclusivity and empowerment. As more women learn to advocate for themselves and support one another, we will contribute to a more equitable and just society where everyone can thrive.